I have basically known my entire life that I was going to be
a foster parent. This was not something that was optional in my eyes. I am not
sure where this sureness came from or when it even started. It could have been
when my sister was adopted, all the baby sitting I did, my passion for children…
It could have been all those commercials on TV about children in other
countries needing to be “saved”, or maybe it was all the LMN and Lifetime shows
I watched while everyone else was watching cartoons on Saturday mornings. But I
always knew God wanted me to be a foster parent and there was to be NO
conversation about it. It is funny to think back to the “dating years” because I
recall actually telling my now husband, “I love kids! Do you love kids? I WILL
be a foster parent one day so you might as well accept that or move on!”
Well the journey took a LOT longer than I would have liked,
especially since it seems like everyone from my small town has kids and is
married by the age of 22. Plus the fact that I (we) are foster parents in a
completely different state then we grew up in still baffles me, but I knew that
no matter when or how it happened, it would happen because I was so sure God
had this planned for me, period.
So after our big, completely unexpected, move out of state
we began the conversations of foster care again. We talked about this over and
over again, basically saying what a great idea it was but not really knowing
where to begin.
After the move I ended up with possibly the best job ever
(the jury is still out) and have gotten to meet some really great people. Lucky
for me some of those people are foster parents and others were in the process
of beginning foster parents. I was able to talk with them and in February we
made a move, literally from an apartment to a house, and made the big FC leap
and requested paperwork for the licensing process. It was easier, in some ways,
than I had thought it would be, and way more complicated in other ways. However,
after a l-o-n-g few months of paperwork, paperwork, paperwork, doctors
appointments (I’ll leave out my husband’s horror stories from this), home
visits, purchasing beds, sheets, wall décor (thanks to my wonderful mother),
dressers, doing more paperwork, more home visits, 14 hours of training, and
more paperwork,
WE ARE FINALLY LICENSED
FOSTER PARENTS!!
We (well I) received the call on Friday, June 28, 2013 at 2:33
PM (yes, I saved it) that we were licensed and they wanted to talk to us about
a child! I was so excited that I screamed and startled my co-workers (luckily
we were outside)! I was so excited that I cut off the voicemail and didn’t finish
listening to it (which would prove to be a problem later). I guess what I should
mention is that the call came in at 2:33 pm however I did not see the missed
call until 5:30 PM! I returned the call, to the number which showed up on my
caller Id. We’ll apparently after 5pm that line is redirected to an emergency answering
service and they were none too happy that I was calling and wasn’t really sure
what I was calling about. I didn’t have a child’s name or where the child was
from. I hung up very disappointed as I really wanted to know about this child,
but decided I would just have to wait….
Well later that night I listened to the voicemail again and
learned the worker had actually called from the office but left her cell
number. I was so mad at myself! I was so excited that I called her at 9:30pm
(which I absolutely hate when my clients do it to me) and left a voicemail. It
was a long weekend waiting and wondering when and if we would get a call about
this child or any other child.
FINALLY, Monday morning came and at 8:15am we got the call
about little miss C. After I spoke with the worker about how we were ABSOLUTELY
ready for a child, and NO we did NOT want to wait awhile after getting licensed
to take a child (who does that?), I was given a few details and I (of course
being responsible) told them I would run it by my husband and call them back. Keenan
had just gotten home from work and we were talking when the call came in. I
gave him the details and his response was, “well of course we’ll take her, I mean
where else is she going to go!” We were so excited, we started talking about
all the different things we needed to do to prepare. Because of little miss’s “issues”
we knew that the computer and our phones would need pass codes, the TV would
from now on be G rated, and we would need to put a monitor in her room. I
called the caseworker (CW) back and said we would absolutely take her and I would
be off by 5pm but would leave early if necessary!
Well, we ended up having to wait a whole day to get her, due
to scheduling of visits and transporting her from another town, but Tuesday was
the day. We were so excited we could not wait!